Coping with Disappointment

Everyone faces some kind of disappointment in life. Small or big, doesn’t matter. The thing that makes a difference is how a person copes with it. There are people who choose to sit around and whine about it, while there are some who try to cope with it the best they can. I’m not saying there is a right and a wrong way to cope with disappointment, but in my opinion, there is some stuff you can do to make disappointment easier for you.

Disappointment is just the action of your brain readjusting itself to reality after discovering things are not the way you thought they were.

-Brad Warner

Emotion. Let yourself figure out what this means to you. Evaluate the whole situation and don’t be afraid to express your emotion about it, but be careful to be respectful and don’t hurt anyone by doing that. Don’t forget that your feelings matter and nobody can tell you-you are wrong. Be honest with yourself and others.

Don’t take it personally. Evaluate what are the reasons for disappointment/rejection. You know, sometimes it’s not you who is rejected, it’s the ideas.

Look at the bigger picture. Look at the things that are happening around that, meaning look at where you are at this point of life and what is happening to you around this event. Try to think how much will this impact on your tomorrow, next week, next month, next year and on your future.

In 20 years, you will be more disappointed by what you didn’t do than by what you did.

-Mark Twain

Breathe in. Breathe out. Take a deep breath. Go out in nature and spend some time with yourself. Take time to reflect. Step away from the situation because it will help you calm your nerves. Therefore you will be better able to handle the disappointment.

You are not the only one. You probably hear that a lot, but it’s true. Remember that thousands and millions of people get rejected and disappointed every day. Think of the world where every one of them would keep being sad for every small rejection. I am not equating you to others, what I am trying to say is that you are not alone in this.

You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.’

Keep yourself happy and engaged. Take up the responsibility, even thought that most probably that is not the first thing you want to do. You have to be a creator of change. You are the one responsible for your happiness. The more you think about a negative strand, more you keep feeling bad about yourself.

Take things as a challenge. What most people do is to feel bad about themselves. It’s not your fault because it kind of happens naturally. But just accept it that you can’t always have it your way. Remember: rejection is not an action directed to you, but you can use it well only if you decide to. The choices are always in your hands and you just have to decide which choice you will go to. You can either feel bad or start working on a change. The results will depend on which you focus on.

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.  

-Dalai Lama

Do not give up! Remember, any person has faced with disappointment. Winners don’t quit. They learn from their mistakes and go on to achieve their goals. You should not allow that disappointment lowers your self-confidence.

You can become your own motivator. Never underestimate the power of encouraging yourself.

 

-tina von s

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4 Comments

  1. Well.. Been down that road today. Huge disappointment. The quote is completely true! I was so focussed on something. Just to discover I won’t have it. So I Loved reading this especially today. Luckily I’m a quite positive person. I know I’ll find something else. And there are so many wonderful things!

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