The Idea Of Moving Out

Do you finally think that you are that that age, where you need/want your own freedom and independence? Or, are your parents telling you day by day, that you should finally find yourself own place and move out? No matter what, it’s a huge decision and a big step into the ‘adulthood’. The plan is that you move out for good, meaning you backup plan can be moving back with your parents, but let’s say that is not the ultimate plan.

ARE YOU REALLY READY?

Meaning financially and mentally. Living by yourself is a great deal, meaning there is no mum who prepares your meals when you come home from work/school and dad can’t help you with changing the tires on your car. Well, depending on how far you moved, but let’s say that we go from one extreme to another.

Cooking, cleaning, budgeting,… This maybe won’t happen the very first month you are leaving by yourself, but let me tell you. You will miss a home cooked meal and after weeks with mess all over the apartment, you will be disgusted with yourself and clean it. Or maybe cleaning being the procrastination method used to avoid other, more important work. And budgeting? Well, saving money is always a plus.

If you can, I would start planning way way in advance.

DO YOU HAVE FINANCES PREPARED?

Look, it’s not just rent and food. It would be simple. Think about all of the expenses. By that, I mean all of them, like shopping trips, detergents, hair salons, personal hygiene products. Everything. Overestimate things, because it’s better to have more in your bank account than a minus before the number.

Also, start building an emergency fund. I know, so adulty right? But, take away some money from every income you have and start saving towards safe point. You never know what might happen, whatever with your job, anywhere. They say that it’s best to have the equivalent of 6 months worth of expenses saved in your bank account, but even a 2-3 months can be good. If you can, I would advise having that kind of money before you even move out, so that you can go panic free into the new world of independence.

THINK OF THE OPTIONS

Okay, the basics are covered, now the hunt. If you are moving to a new city, is maybe the best idea to share the place with roommates. Sharing the expenses and experience, they can show you around and If you find good ones, boom, instant friends. Also, the workload is usually split up, group dinners, washing the clothes in one round,…

If you are financially stable, well, good for you. You can live alone, but that of course means, that you carry all of the expenses on your own. Rent, utilities, appliances are all on you.  But, you have more space and privacy.

APARTMENT HUNTING

There are certain times of the year where more options are available than others, so research when this is in your new area of living to ensure the best possible selection. Choose wisely tho. Research the areas, infrastructure with buses, parking if you have a car, supermarkets,… Go and look at the rooms, check the signal of your phone, take pictures so you can compare later.

THAT TRICKY LEASE PART

Read it and then read it again. After you are finished, go ahead and read it again. Not to scare you, but some of them can be a little sneaky. See if it includes the internet or not, free parking, who cares about the maintenance costs of the whole building,… Those little things you maybe don’t think about but they are pretty important and are usually the things where you lose money.

MOVING DAY

Don’t worry, you will forget some things. A month or two and you should be good, get all of your basics sorted off. When I first moved out, I forgot to bring the cutlery with me. So yeah, let’s say that you probably won’t think of everything, so keep a notepad with you, that you write down everything you forgot. Buut, more on that coming soon.

Don’t live just to work or work just to live.

I know, money is a big subject in this theme, but in my opinion, it’s important that you don’t work just to get all your dues paid and be without money at the end of your month. Live within your means, save up a little so you can maybe go somewhere nice, buy something nice to pamper yourself. It’s not all about those extra shifts and hours, live a little too.

Move out, start on your personal growth and on your own life. You are officially an adult now. Well, adult-ish. I think. What actually makes an adult is still an unknown answer.

 

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Pieces Of Advice You Didn’t Ask For

1. Ignore 1-star and 5-star reviews of books, hotels and products. The 3-star reviews will answer all your questions.
2. When you’re a host, use that experience to learn how to be a better guest, and vice-versa.

3. If you want to be fit, become someone who doesn’t skip or reschedule workouts. Skipping workouts is always the beginning of the end.

4. Learn keyboard shortcuts. If you don’t know what CTRL + Z does, your life is definitely harder than it has to be.

5. Become a stranger’s secret ally, even for a few minutes. Your perception of strangers in general will change.

6. Get over the myth that philosophy is boring — it has a history of changing lives. It’s only as boring as the person talking about it.

7. If you’re about to put down a boring a non-fiction book, skim the rest of it before you move on. Read the bits that still appeal to you.

8. Ask yourself if you’ve become a relationship freeloader. Initiate the plans about half the time.

9. Notice how much you talk in your head, and experiment with listening to your surroundings instead. You can’t do both at the same time.

10. Reach out to people you know are shy. It’s hard for them to get involved in social things without somebody making a point of including them.

11. Learn the difference between something that makes you feel bad, and something that’s wrong. A thing can feel bad and be right, and it can feel good and be wrong.

12. If you need to stop for any reason in a public place, move off to the side first.

13. Before you share an interesting “fact” on Facebook, take thirty seconds to Google it first, to see if you’re spreading made-up bullshit.

14. Clean things up right away, unless your messes tend to improve with age.

15. Consciously plan your life, or others will do it for you.

16. Be suspicious when someone uses the words “Justice” and “Deserve” a lot. Be suspicious when you use them yourself.

17. Get rid of stuff you don’t use. Unused and unappreciated things make us feel bad.

18. Expect people to get offended sometimes when you try to tell them what to do. Even if you think it’s good advice 🙂

19. Once in a while, imagine what it would be like if you really did lose all your data and had only your current backups.

20. Spend as long as it takes — five or ten years even — to move towards a line of work that feels well-suited to you.

21. Rediscover board games. They’re still tons of fun.

22. Try making small, humble presents instead of buying big ones, and see how different it feels for both you and the recipient.

23. To eat fewer calories, eat a lot slower than normal and see what changes.

24. Watch experts perform their chosen art whenever you get a chance. There’s something really grounding about it.

25. Avoid arguing about politics, except for entertainment value. By the time it’s an argument, nobody’s listening.

26. Ledger all your income, purchases and expenses, at least for a whole month. You can’t help but discover wasteful spending. It’s like giving yourself a raise.

27. When someone disagrees with you, try to understand what needs and fears are behind their stance. Yours probably aren’t much different.

28. When driving, pretend the other drivers are all friends and relatives. It makes the driving experience friendlier, and often hilarious.

29. Don’t act while you’re still angry. Anger makes the wrong things seem right, and remorse lasts way longer than anger.

30. Understand that what’s dangerous and what’s illegal are always going to be different, and need to be. It doesn’t always make sense to criminalize something just because it can be harmful.

31. Don’t be late. Everyone hates waiting for late people.

32. Read Richard Carlson’s classic Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. Or read it again if it’s been a while. Fifteen years after I first read it, I can’t think of a more helpful book.

33. Be aware of the complex, systemic nature of the world’s biggest problems, and our habit of framing them as simple ones with clear villains and victims.

34. When you’re with a loved one, pretend momentarily that they’re actually gone from your life, and that you’re just remembering this ordinary moment with them.

35. Make of point of sitting and chatting with at least one local whenever you travel. It will transform your view of the place. [It’s easy to meet a local resident for coffee using couchsurfing.org]

36. Experiment with meditation. It gives you tools to mitigate nearly every thing human beings complain about — fear, boredom, loss, envy, pain, sadness, confusion, and doubt — yet remains unpopular in the West.

37. Give classical music another shot every few years.

38. Read a bit about some of the “isms” you normally dismiss — socialism, capitalism, conservatism, feminism, anarchism. There are probably more good ideas there than you thought.

39. Be wary of declaring yourself a “_____ist” though. Making an identity out of your beliefs is bound to make you less objective.

40. Picture yourself at your own funeral. Imagine what they are thinking.

41. Donate clothes that you don’t feel good wearing.

42. Practice opening up to minor discomfort when it happens — really letting yourself feel it instead of resisting it. Everything becomes easier to handle.

43. Listen to Dolly Parton’s “Jolene” slowed down to 33 rpm, at least once in your life.

44. Don’t make jokes about people’s names or bodies, even if you think they would laugh.

45. Make a point of enjoying the walk across the parking lot.

46. Understand the concept of “privilege,” but don’t use it as a slur. Use your privilege for good.

47. Don’t limit your compassion to people who don’t cause any harm (because there are none.)

48. Be aware of the intoxicating effect of bad moods. A bad mood usually means things are better than they look.

49. Once in a while, imagine that this moment is the very first moment of your life, and then build a future from there.

50. Go to your city’s low-key ethnic restaurants instead of flashy chain establishments — not to “help out the little guy” but because they’re better and cheaper.

51. Avoid being the least sober person in the room, unless you’re the only person in the room.

52. Go to New York, at least once.

53. Consider keeping a bucket list that you take seriously. They stave off complacency.

54. Remember that you’re essentially no different from prehistoric humans, except that you have tools and advantages they would find ridiculous.

55. If life ever feels like it’s too loud and busy, go hang out at the library.

56. Never hide from truths about your financial position. If you’re afraid to know your bank balance, you have a problem bigger than money problems.

57. If you think dancing isn’t for you, try it again sometime.

58. When you’re about to buy something, think about what feeling you’re actually after. Ultimately we only want things because of how they promise to make us feel.

59. Floss every day. You can fool yourself but you can’t fool your dentist, or your teeth.

60. Be extra kind to people while they are at work, especially servers, clerks, and tech support staff.

61. Whenever you’re being contradicted, try not to get caught up in being defensive. You’re either right, or you get to learn something new today.

62. At least consider taking religion’s five central no-no’s seriously: don’t steal, don’t lie, don’t kill, don’t harm people with your reproductive urges, and don’t drink so much that you forget the other four.

63. Own at least one plant. They’ll never judge you, but they’ll let you know if you’re being careless.

64. Try not to let a week go by without having lunch or coffee with a friend.

65. Do 30-day experiments for fun and sport — try out a new way of doing something for a while. Even if they’re train wrecks you always learn something about yourself.

66. Appeal to your friends for their expertise. You get good advice, they feel valued.

67. Write people letters. Everyone loves getting letters.

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Study Like a Harvard Student

Studying can be really hard and a pain in the ass. You have to find the motivation to do it and of course finding the right way to study. No two students are same by any means, but here are some basic pointers to really get it going.

Preliminary Steps

1. Choose classes that interest you. That way studying doesn’t feel like slave labor. If you don’t want to learn, then I can’t help you.
2. Make some friends. See steps 12, 13, 23, 24.

General Principles

3. Study less, but study better.
4. Avoid Autopilot Brain at all costs.
5. Vague is bad. Vague is a waste of your time.
6. Write it down.
7. Suck it up, buckle down, get it done.

Plan of Attack Phase I: Class

8. Show up. Everything will make a lot more sense that way, and you will save yourself a lot of time in the long run.
9. Take notes by hand. I don’t know the science behind it, but doing anything by hand is a way of carving it into your memory. Also, if you get bored you will doodle, which is still a thousand times better than ending up on stumbleupon or something.

Phase II: Study Time

10. Get out of the library. The sheer fact of being in a library doesn’t fill you with knowledge. Eight hours of Facebooking in the library is still eight hours of Facebooking. Also, people who bring food and blankets to the library and just stay there during finals week start to smell weird. Go home and bathe. You can quiz yourself while you wash your hair.
11. Do a little every day, but don’t let it be your whole day. “This afternoon, I will read a chapter of something and do half a problem set. Then, I will watch an episode of South Park and go to the gym” ALWAYS BEATS “Starting right now, I am going to read as much as I possibly can…oh wow, now it’s midnight, I’m on page five, and my room reeks of ramen and dysfunction.”
12. Give yourself incentive. There’s nothing worse than a gaping abyss of study time. If you know you’re going out in six hours, you’re more likely to get something done.
13. Allow friends to confiscate your phone when they catch you playing Angry Birds. Oh and if you think you need a break, you probably don’t.

Phase III: Assignments

14. Stop highlighting. Underlining is supposed to keep you focused, but it’s actually a one-way ticket to Autopilot Brain. You zone out, look down, and suddenly you have five pages of neon green that you don’t remember reading. Write notes in the margins instead.
15. Do all your own work. You get nothing out of copying a problem set. It’s also shady.
16. Read as much as you can. No way around it. Stop trying to cheat with Sparknotes.
17. Be a smart reader, not a robot (lol). Ask yourself: What is the author trying to prove? What is the logical progression of the argument? You can usually answer these questions by reading the introduction and conclusion of every chapter. Then, pick any two examples/anecdotes and commit them to memory (write them down). They will help you reconstruct the author’s argument later on.
18. Don’t read everything, but understand everything that you read. Better to have a deep understanding of a limited amount of material, than to have a vague understanding of an entire course. Once again: Vague is bad. Vague is a waste of your time.
19. Bullet points. For essays, summarizing, everything.

Phase IV: Reading Period (Review Week)

20. Once again: do not move into the library. Eat, sleep, and bathe.
21. If you don’t understand it, it will definitely be on the exam. Solution: textbooks; the internet.
22. Do all the practice problems. This one is totally tiger mom.
23. People are often contemptuous of rote learning. Newsflash: even at great intellectual bastions like Harvard, you will be required to memorize formulas, names and dates. To memorize effectively: stop reading your list over and over again. It doesn’t work. Say it out loud, write it down. Remember how you made friends? Have them quiz you, then return the favor.
24. Again with the friends: ask them to listen while you explain a difficult concept to them. This forces you to articulate your understanding. Remember, vague is bad.
25. Go for the big picture. Try to figure out where a specific concept fits into the course as a whole. This will help you tap into Big Themes – every class has Big Themes – which will streamline what you need to know. You can learn a million facts, but until you understand how they fit together, you’re missing the point.

Phase V: Exam Day
26. Crush exam. Get A.

Taken from Sophia Chua-Rubenfeld, daughter of the Tiger Mother (x)

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Adopting A Healthy Lifestyle

Adopting A Healthy Lifestyle

Not a diet. Diet implies temporary, and what we need to do is form a set of new, sustainable habits for the rest of our life.

A lot of you probably have a daydream of taking a black, billowy trash bag and planning a SWAT-style assault on your fridge and cupboards and then setting fire to the dumpster you hurl it into. Naturally, you’ll dash over to the grocery store and purchase a ton of strange-looking foods you don’t regularly eat, or never eat! Then you’ll slap on a pair of shiny new shoes and go run a 5K. This works for–some people. Honestly, few people.

The reality for many people; however, is they get off their foray after a few weeks. Why is that?

Think about it. How long did it take you to really get into the groove of your current habits? Months? Years? If you’re trying to simultaneously kiss soda and chip’s ass good-bye, change every bite of food you eat, and start a fitness routine. Guess what? Stress, stress, stress! Your stomach was used to those portion sizes (whether too large or too small) and some of your favorite snacks, your brain is literally addicted to it. A lot of people will reach nuclear meltdown levels trying to transition to a healthy lifestyle this way.

Just like it took you time to form your current habits, it’s going to take some time to form your new habits. I truly do empathize with the feelings of wanting everything to be different right now, but realistically we can only handle a certain amount of stressors and change at one time.

Start With Nutrition Habits// While I really would recommend finding a few cheeky ways to get more active, you’ve probably heard some variant of “can’t outrun your fork,” or “it’s 80% nutrition.” Well, it really is true. Being more active is absolutely crucial to improving overall health in the “endgame,”  but we’re still playing the “tutorial” and the dietary aspects of our lifestyle change are the bulk of the impact. It goes beyond that, though. I’ve written more about it here, but being a beginner can be genuinely hard at times!  It takes a lot of time and effort to get oneself to a point where they can physically and mentally handle what entails “regular, moderate exercise.” One part of making that transition easier will be better nutrition and hydration.

Start With an Easy Target// I always tell people if they drink a lot of soda, juice, or sweetened tea/coffee to start here. Sugar provides us pretty much no nutrition and removing the pulp from fruit makes juice not that great for us, either. Drinking more water is not negotiable and replacing these beverages with water will do a surprising amount of good for how you feel–all by itself. I recognize how hard this one can be to kick, but sweetened beverages really do load many people’s lifestyles with a lot of bad juju.

If you don’t have a beverage problem, maybe you do have a condiment/dressing problem and can reduce the quantities and find alternatives. Maybe you party-hardy a little too much and need to cut down on alcohol. While I said “easy target,” no one said it would be that easy, but you probably have an idea where most of these so called “empty” nutrients are coming from.

Transition Bad Habits a Few at a Time// The opening of this probably already made it clear, but Rome wasn’t built in a day. You probably have an idea of what some of your most problematic habits are, so choose one; maybe two, and see how you adjust over a week or two before considering the next step.

Small Swaps// Start switching out various items in your pantries, fridges, and lunchboxes with simple alternatives. Change white breads, rices, and pastas to brown. Take the bag of chips from your lunch and turn it into a few servings of seasonal fruit and vegetables. Pick out a leaner cut of meat and use a little less dairy, if you eat them. Little changes can have massive results.

Learn Moderation// Remember that whole sustainable part at the very beginning? Our lifestyles do need to reflect our real lives. Well, my real life has a love of chocolates, pastries, and candies. So, it’s not realistic for me to say “no chocolate, pastries, or candies.” Food molarity can be a pretty toxic outlook on eating and life in general. Instead of labeling foods as “bad,” just learn and respect the limits. There are times where you have to say, “enough, is enough,” but living in a constant state of “no” is not realistic or mentally healthy for most people. It’s OK to love indulgent food. Think about how long your life is going to be. So, now think about how dinky an occasional treat will be in retrospect.

Depending on Your Struggles, Consider Therapy// As we know, many aspects of unhealthy eating habits are actually unhealthy mental habits. Depending on the severity and exact nature of those problems, never be embarrassed to seek professional help. I struggled with stress eating and even binge eating for most of my adolescence, and finally getting help for my anxiety disorder played a pretty crucial role in improving both my physical and mental health. If it’s not a possibility at this time, consider journaling.

Walk Before Your Run// Literally and figuratively. I’m going to recommend this previous post, but when you’ve gotten a few habits cracked and feel like you’re ready to start amping up your activity, start with low impact and low equipment exercises. If it has been years, or if you’ve never exercised, it takes some easing into it. I recommend walking to all beginners because we already know how to do it, have what we need to do it, and probably won’t hurt ourselves.

So, there you have it. Tackle small challenges and get your body acclimated to them before you consider some of the overarching and holistic goals you have for your lifestyle. That said, we’re all different. If you still want to try and do that 180-flip, I can’t stop you and some people are successful that way. No two people or personality types have the exact same problems or strategy for overcoming them. However, if you’ve gotten frustrated and thrown in the towel a time or two, consider the scope of change and how to realistically implement it over a period of time.  We didn’t form our old habits overnight.

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How To Write a Killer CV

You have three to five seconds to stand out. So make it count.

CV or curriculum vitae provides a summary of your experience and skills. Remember, you have around five seconds to make an impression, maybe even less than that. Your resume should be clear and not to say organised. It’s important that you don’t send the same CV to all the companies, since they are looking for different skill sets, so it’s should be tailored to each opportunity. It can take more time, but results are at least in my opinion noticeable.

// RESEARCH THE COMPANY

In my opinion if you research the company very well and the position you are applying for, you can make yourself seem like a perfect fit, even if you are not completely. You can tailor your experiences to show that you are appropriate for the job. It’s important that you don’t put everything on your resume, it has to be just enough. Probably the person interviewing you won’t be interested that you were a cleaner in your student years if you are applying for a role of an accountant in the firm. Like I said, tailor it  and you’ll be good.

// THE WRITING PROCESS

PROFILE / In your profile section of the CV, put your professional title, some unique expertise and charasteristics,… Let’s say something that makes you, you. A great addition to the company. It should be a short company of who you are and what can you bring to your company.

EDUCATION / While it might not be the most important thing it can still count for some positions. It really depends on what kind of job you are looking for, but don’t forget to include this info as well.

SKILLS / The CV itself should contain the section describing your abilities. This is a part where you can showcase your skills and it should be in a readable format, so that the employer can just scan the section and see if you are the real fit. It shouldn’t be too long, it should be brief and perfect for the position you are applying. Showcase the skills that the  company needs and they are looking for. Some safe keywords are communication skills (be aware that you have to show that at the interview as well), any foreign languages you know, social networking,… But be careful, don’t lie on your resume, since most likely it will come to the time where the skills will come to the test. Write down some unique skills as well, since most of the people will opt in for the ‘safe keywords’ as well and you won’t stand out.

WORK HISTORY / I already mentioned that in the introduction it’s really important that you list only the important experience, better said, the experience that can correlate with the position you are applying for. This section is a part where you can write down all the achievments and the expertise you were in. You should write the title or the position you held, of course written next to the company you were in. The employment interval for every occupation you held, maybe some interviewers will ask for reasons why the job ended, was it on your behalf or did the company fire you and what were the reasons to do so.

Don’t forget to include the simple description of the job you had and some obligations/responsibilities you had. It’s amazing if you can write some of the achievement from the job and try to quantify your impact. That means show your accomplishment in fact, not just words. This was already said by Aristotle who taught three pillars of effective persuasion: ethos, pathos and logos. You should basically persuade others using logic, evidence, and facts. (1)

// DON’T LIE

This is a no brainer, but I already written, that probably there will be a place and the time that you will get busted. One way or another, your lie will get out.

// KEEP IT UPDATED

You changed your telephone number? Update it on the resume. You were in an online course and you gained some knowledge that would be useful for the position you are looking for? Write it down. You learned the basics of a foreign language. Make a note of that in your skill section, but don’t forget the upper statement. If you only know the introduction of yourself in ones language, don’t put it on the resume. Make sure you at least have some basics figured out.

//PROOFREAD

Yep, once you have a resume written out, give it out to friends to check for any spelling errors, grammar mistakes you can correct. If you have an option for a certified proofreader, even better! Just be sure, that you send in the greatest resume that you can make.

// DESIGN

There are a lot of people who only write everything in Word and just send that. Plain text, with no formatting, no size changes. I mean, it’s okay, you showcase everything, but does it stand out? Like I said, there are only a few seconds that it can make or break the return call for the interview. If you have an eye for design, you can make it yourself in Word, Photoshop or any other programs. You can have it custom made or just download/buy some printables that are on the web. In fact I am working on a section on this blog, where free CV templates will be available for you. Adding more and more each time. Check it out: CV Templates

//SEND!

This is what you were waiting for, right? Send it in, keep your fingers crossed and be available for any return calls and check your e-mail often.

I wish you best of luck in your job hunting. May you land the dream job soon.

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Reaching Your Full Potential

Ever wonder what your life would be like if you lived up to your full potential? Would your body be healthier? Your skin clearer? Bank account bigger? I think about these things all the time, and, judging my a previous post, you guys do to. Below is a chart designed to help all of us live up to our full potential. I’ve broken it down into time frames to help keep you from getting overwhelmed. Write the chart down and hang it someplace where you can see it all the time.

EVERY MORNING

  • Stretch. First thing. Really give your body enough time to wake up. Touch your toes. Roll out your shoulders. Do not hit snooze!
  • Do your full skincare routine. Do whatever works for you and your complexion. Be gentle and consistent.
  • Brush your teeth and floss. I used to be a big floss-skipper too, but you’d be amazed at how dig of a difference it makes. Rinse with a whitening mouthwash. I use one by Crest, and I notice a major difference in my teeth’s overall whiteness in just a few days.
  • Give yourself enough time to get ready. Whether you’re a wash-and-go kind of girl, or someone who spends an hour doing a full contouring routine before class (and either one is fine!), make sure you aren’t rushing. If you need to wake up a few minutes earlier than normal, so be it. Rushing sets an awful, stressed-out tone for the rest of the day. Allow yourself to be relaxed before taking on the day.
  • Eat something. I’m not going to say eat a big breakfast, because some people (myself included) just can’t eat in the morning. But you should eat, or at least bring a little something with you to work or school. If you can’t eat a full breakfast, grab a fruit! You won’t be as hungry come lunch time, making you less likely to gorge yourself.
  • Shower. You can do this at night, in the morning, whatever. Again, this is something you should allow some time for. I don’t wash my hair every day, but I do condition it every day (from the ears down). Scrub yourself with a delicious-smelling body wash. If you shave, make yourself as smooth as a dolphin, dude. If you don’t, then don’t and don’t ever ever ever let anyone make you feel bad or weird about it. When you get out of the shower, wrap yourself in a fluffy towel and totally slather your sexy self with lotion. Top to bottom. Do it as soon as you can post-shower so it can really sink in.
  • Put leave-in condition throughout your damp hair and comb it through.
  • Put on an outfit that makes you feel good! So important!
  • Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!
  • Take a look at your daily to-do list. Knock out the most pressing stuff first. Take pride when you cross things off your list.
  • Make your bed! Oh my god, make your bed. Do it. Do it. Do it.

EVERY AFTERNOON

  • Follow the “touch it once” approach. This is a truly life-changing thing. When a task is in front of you, no matter how big or small, just do it right then and there. How many times have you gotten a work email or homework assignment and thought, “Eh, I’ll do it later”? And then later never comes? Once something pops up, do it once. Squash it and be done. Cross things off your list and feel like a badass.
  • Try to go for a walk at lunch. Even one little lap around the block or campus will reenergize you like nobody’s business.
  • Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!
  • Be present. This is so hard for me too, but you have to make a major effort to be present in whatever you’re doing. Be engaged and plugged-in and just exist in the moment. Give 100 percent.
  • Be friendly to friends and strangers. A smile goes a long way.
  • Eat something. Eat what you packed for lunch (see below) and take a break from working while you do it. You need “you time”!

EVERY EVENING

  • Take your makeup off as soon as you’re in for the night. Wash your face with your full routine and let your skin have a break.
  • Workout. You can also do this in the morning. Whatever works for you. Make a great playlist and go hard af. Get your cardio in. Get your strength training in. Earn every freaking sweat bead forming on your forehead. Earn your shower!
  • Knock out your homework. Life is infinitely better you don’t have anything hanging over your head. Half the time, the energy and emotion you spent dreading/putting off your work is ten times worse than the work itself.
  • Make a list of what needs to be done tomorrow. It’ll set you up for success the next day, and you won’t forget anything!
  • Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!
  • Lay out your clothes for tomorrow. This will save you SO MUCH TIME in the morning omg I can’t even tell you how important this is.
  • Eat something great. And once you’ve decided to be done eating for the night, be done. Brush your teeth so you can’t eat again.
  • After brushing, do a whitening treatment. Whether it’s classic baking soda, a Crest white strip, or a laser. Do something. And floss! Retainers in too, ladies 0:)
  • Relax! Take a few hours to do what YOU want to do. Scroll through Tumblr, binge on some Netflix, FaceTime gossip with your friends, anything. Do whatever makes you happiest.
  • Shut the electronics off an hour before you want to go to bed. Put your phone on sleep mode. If you stare at the screen, it will keep you awake and alert and you won’t be able to fall asleep. A good night’s sleep is crucial for weightless and general happiness lol
  • Do a quick sweep of your room and see if there’s anything you can put away real quick. A clean space is a happy space.
  • Crawl into your bed (aren’t you happy you took the time to make it?!) and read a book by lamplight for a while. When you start to feel sleepy, go to sleep. Don’t push it. You kicked ass today and you deserve rest.

EVERY WEEKEND

  • Do something with your friends. It just has to be one thing. Even if you’re just hanging out at the coffee shop, spending time with your squad will make you a better, happier person.
  • Drink water. Drink water. Drink water. Drink water!!!!!
  • Do something just for you. Set your laptop up in the bathroom and watch a Netflix marathon while you take a bubble bath. Buy an old school bottle of Mr. Bubbles ($3 at Target!) and really just soak. Relax. Light a candle.
  • Do something creative. You can read a book, write, blog, draw, code, anything. It just has to be something that speaks to your passion.
  • Track your progress. Just do this once a week so it doesn’t become all-consuming. And remember that non-scale victories are just as important as shedding pounds.
  • Take the time to be grateful. Tell your friend how much you admire her taste in music. Mention to your mom how much you love her cooking and how happy you are that she takes care of you. Thank your teaching after an especially interesting lecture. When you do something awesome, take a moment to admire yourself. Be grateful for even the little things.

 

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The Art of Adulting 3

More things about life and succesful adulting, from a bonafide adult:

  • Invest in a durable set of pots and pans, a package of sponges, decent oven mitts, and a few potholders. You will want them.
  • Never leave wooden utensils in water. They will soften and warp. These need to be cleaned immediately after use.
  • Sticky pots and pans can be soaked to make scrubbing easier. You can also get a little scrubby brush to help take the crusty bits off. Just be careful that you don’t scrub off the nonstick coating, and NEVER use soap on a wok or a cast-iron frying pan.
  • Buy quart-sized freezer bags and use them to store single pounds of ground beef, pairs of chicken breasts, fish filets, frozen fruits and veggies…anything that needs freezing. You can save a lot of money on food that way. Just make sure that you press the air out of the bag before sealing it and write on the label what’s in the bag and the date you put it in the freezer.
  • You can “day-dot” with leftovers too, so you’re not wondering if that Chinese takeaway is still good when it’s on the point of gaining sentience and needed to be chucked three days ago.
  • On that note, takeaway food is good for about two days as leftovers, if you get it into proper containers and into the fridge right away. If you leave it sitting out all night, it’s no good.
  • If you’re going to reheat something in the microwave, put a paper towel over it to prevent splashing, especially if it’s something like chili or pasta.
  • Check allrecipes.com for easy meals you can make for very little money or with whatever you happen to have in the house.
  • Ice cube trays. Always have two and keep them filled in hot weather.
  • Put a pad of paper somewhere in your kitchen that you use as a grocery list. If you want to make a certain dish, write down the ingredients before you go to the store. If you run out of something, write it down for your next trip. Few things are more frustrating that getting home from a trip to the market and realizing you forgot something you really needed.
  • Buy toilet paper and paper towels in bulk whenever possible. Just do it. Trust me. And ALWAYS replace the roll the second it runs out, or you’ll regret it later.
  • Clean your bathroom at least as often as you clean your kitchen. There’s a similar amount of daily activity going on in there and just as much opportunity for grossness to happen. A simple spray cleaner, some disinfecting wipes, a few paper towels, and a Magic Eraser should get the job done. (Seriously, those things live up to their name!)
  • If you or a roommate get sick, clean EVERYTHING the second you get better. Use disinfecting wipes on things like sinks, doorknobs, and tabletops. Try to keep dirty tissues contained; plastic grocery bags are GREAT for this and you can just toss them when they’re full.
  • If your financial institution offers online banking, USE IT. Check your balance daily. You don’t have to know to a penny what’s in your account, but you should be aware of where your funds are, when your bills are due, and what you can afford to spend on groceries.

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Coping with Disappointment

Everyone faces some kind of disappointment in life. Small or big, doesn’t matter. The thing that makes a difference is how a person copes with it. There are people who choose to sit around and whine about it, while there are some who try to cope with it the best they can. I’m not saying there is a right and a wrong way to cope with disappointment, but in my opinion, there is some stuff you can do to make disappointment easier for you.

Disappointment is just the action of your brain readjusting itself to reality after discovering things are not the way you thought they were.

-Brad Warner

Emotion. Let yourself figure out what this means to you. Evaluate the whole situation and don’t be afraid to express your emotion about it, but be careful to be respectful and don’t hurt anyone by doing that. Don’t forget that your feelings matter and nobody can tell you-you are wrong. Be honest with yourself and others.

Don’t take it personally. Evaluate what are the reasons for disappointment/rejection. You know, sometimes it’s not you who is rejected, it’s the ideas.

Look at the bigger picture. Look at the things that are happening around that, meaning look at where you are at this point of life and what is happening to you around this event. Try to think how much will this impact on your tomorrow, next week, next month, next year and on your future.

In 20 years, you will be more disappointed by what you didn’t do than by what you did.

-Mark Twain

Breathe in. Breathe out. Take a deep breath. Go out in nature and spend some time with yourself. Take time to reflect. Step away from the situation because it will help you calm your nerves. Therefore you will be better able to handle the disappointment.

You are not the only one. You probably hear that a lot, but it’s true. Remember that thousands and millions of people get rejected and disappointed every day. Think of the world where every one of them would keep being sad for every small rejection. I am not equating you to others, what I am trying to say is that you are not alone in this.

You must make a decision that you are going to move on. It won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life.’

Keep yourself happy and engaged. Take up the responsibility, even thought that most probably that is not the first thing you want to do. You have to be a creator of change. You are the one responsible for your happiness. The more you think about a negative strand, more you keep feeling bad about yourself.

Take things as a challenge. What most people do is to feel bad about themselves. It’s not your fault because it kind of happens naturally. But just accept it that you can’t always have it your way. Remember: rejection is not an action directed to you, but you can use it well only if you decide to. The choices are always in your hands and you just have to decide which choice you will go to. You can either feel bad or start working on a change. The results will depend on which you focus on.

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.  

-Dalai Lama

Do not give up! Remember, any person has faced with disappointment. Winners don’t quit. They learn from their mistakes and go on to achieve their goals. You should not allow that disappointment lowers your self-confidence.

You can become your own motivator. Never underestimate the power of encouraging yourself.

 

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Taking Care Of Your Skin

Skin is a tricky thing. Everyone’ skin is different and requires different treatments, meaning there is not an absolute universal product that would result in getting a clear skin. If you are born with clear skin, then may I just say: Lucky you!

Other people, well, we have to work to get that somewhat clear skin and trying out various creams, pills, treatments that are being prescribed by dermatologists. And guess what? They all cost a ton of money. They rarely work or they work for the first couple of days/weeks and they suddenly stop. So you know what? I have some tips for you that are not in any shape or form advertisement for a specific product.

 

WHAT HELPED ME CLEAR MY SKIN?

You are what you eat. This is actually true because your skin is built from what is on the inside. So nourish your body with the high amount of minerals, vitamins, antioxidants and you will be doing yourself much good.

Quality product. Even though skin is built from the inside out, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t watch what you put on the top. Like I already said, every skin is different, so you have to find your favourite make-up brand that works for you, so it might take some trial and error.

Clean your face. While we are on the topic of makeup, this is quite an important step. I don’t think you have to have an explanation for that, as it is really straight forward. Just don’t go to sleep with makeup on.

Get essential sleep. I am not saying I am the best person to give you this advice, but it is recommended that you sleep at least 8 hours a night. It might sound hard, but… Sorry, I can’t say it is not hard because I really struggle with that a lot. So try your best to sleep as much as possible, but not too much as well. You know what they say. Beauty sleep is the best.

Bed sheets and hair. I think that if you have bangs, your forehead is going to get oily faster. It happened to me a lot when I had them, but once I have cut them, it got a little bit better in my opinion. Also, don’t forget to change your bed sheets and pillow sheets often, as they have a big impact on how your skin will look like, because of all the bacteria that holds on to them.

Drink water. Or H2O if you prefer this term. Staying hydrated is essential for your body so that it can function normally. Remember, thirst is the first sign of dehydration, so keep a water bottle with you at all times and make sure to refill it regularly.

Exercise. Yeah. Some people might not like this idea, but a girl’ gotta do what a girl’ gotta do. Find the exercise you enjoy doing or bring a friend with you and that way you will enjoy it. And don’t forget, that exercise is great for your overall health and has a lot of positive effects, but more on the exercise itself some other time.

Alkaline your body. Okay, I am going to bother you with just a little bit of chemistry. Don’t worry, it’s nothing complex, only basics, that you probably already know. Our body has different pH levels and high levels can lead to acne, digestive issues, discomfort… The average person tends to lean towards the acidic side (some drugstores provide pH strips to measure yourself). Balancing pH levels first thing in the morning can lead to clearer skin and reduced inflammation. How do you do this? Drink water with lemon or add some apple vinegar to a glass of water.

The most important thing about clear skin is, of course, hormones and genes. So it is not always your fault for an unclear skin. Just don’t compare yourself with models who have their ‘imperfections’ photoshopped.

Stay healthy, guys!

 

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The Art of Adulting 2

More things about life and succesful adulting, from a bonafide adult:

  • There is no shame in calling a company and asking for an extension on a bill. Let them know what you can pay, pay that amount, and they arrange when the rest of the payment is required. This can stop you from having services shut off man. It shows responsibility on your part.
  • Take time to eat, even when you don’t feel like eating. Your body needs energy to live.
  • Wash or rinse your dishes before putting them in the dishwasher. It prevents gross caked on junk.
  • Keep some bleach around but if you use it for cleaning? Dillute it. There’s rarely ever a case where you need to pout straight bleach on anything. A cap full or two in a bucket of water works just fine.
  • DO NOT MIX CLEANERS. Chemical reactions are can be very dangerous. Here’s a good list. (Note that vinegar and baking soda can actually be a good combo for removing smells from things but it’s not very good at actually -cleaning-.)
  • If you drink? Don’t take meds at the same time it’s just not good.
  • Make sure you check the dosages on your pill bottles. No one wants to accidentally overdose on cough syrup or ibuprofen.
  • If you have a uterus make sure you have a heating pad and ibuprofen on hand for the pain. Hot baths also generally help and Ginger Tea is excellent for any nausea.
  • Buy a first aid kit. It’s worth it in the long run.
  • Here’s some good sex ed resources because I had to explain what a yeast infection was recently.
  • Petroleum jelly (aka Vaseline) is good for chapped lips and you can get a decent sized tube or tub of it (generic brand version) for cheaper/same price as Chapstick.
  • Sales, coupons, and loyalty cards are your friends. Take full advantage of them.
  • Do your laundry as often as time and finances allow, and pay attention to those labels! Clothes will last longer if they are washed properly. Also, if you have sensitive skin, there are detergents for that. Nobody wants itchy clothes.
  • Own at least two pairs of comfortable shoes. One should be for walking or jogging, the other should be for nicer things like the office or going out to a nice restaurant. Your feet will thank you.
  • Those unmatched socks whose mates have fecked off to Paris or something can be reused as dusting sleeves. Pull it over your hand, spritz it with some Pledge or other dusting cleaner, and wipe down your furniture and surfaces.
  • It’s important to dust and vacuum regularly. It prevents the build-up of allergens, mold spores, leftover sick germs, bad smells, and general yuckiness. If you can thrift or secondhand a vacuum cleaner, DO IT. They can be expensive, especially if you’re on a budget.
  • If you have pets, clean up after them DAILY and make sure they always have access to fresh, clean water. Wash out their bowls at least once a week.
  • If your tap water smells like pool water or doesn’t taste right, don’t drink it. It may be palatable, but some areas may have chemicals or heavy metals in the water supply that can cause you lots of problems. Purchase gallons from the store if you need to, and don’t skimp on giving it to the pets.
  • Invest in a set of baking dishes and a decent set of tupperware. They’re fairly inexpensive and you can always ask you folks for it for Christmas. Baking dishes greatly increase the number of things you can cook quickly and easily, and those storage containers will hold leftovers.

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